Friday, March 25, 2011

Empty Home

After moving out of the corporate hotel I was staying in a really crappy apartment in the worst area of Halifax.  I still didn’t really know anyone at work, winter was coming so the days were getting short, and I didn’t feel safe there.  I’d get home at 7:00 after work every evening and just go on my computer and watch tv for the rest of the night, trying to drown out the sound of the drunk neighbors.  Weekends were especially lonely and boring.  Don’t get me wrong, I love having my own place and alone time is something I love, but when you don’t have any friends in a city alone time is all you get.

A reader of my blog told me she had a cousin moving to town and he was about my age, didn’t know anyone and we’d probably get along.  I met up with him when he first came to town and we got along great.  We talked and he told me he’d lived in Edmonton for a few years.  We’d actually both lived there at the same time for a year, and he lived really close to BioWare! 

We decided to go look at apartments since I was dying to get out of where I was now, and he was looking for a room-mate.  We found a really nice place and signed the lease.  That place was where I am now, and that person was Ryan.

Once I moved into the new place Ryan and I became good friends and my life in Halifax improved dramatically.  Yes, sometimes I missed the solitude of having my own place, but having a nicer place in a safe area and having an actual friend in Halifax more than made up for that.

For the next 5 months we lived together.  He was having a tough time finding decent work so when we hung out we’d just go see movies or grab coffee.  Or we’d stay in and play videogames.  It had been almost 5 months and he was still having a tough time finding work, so he started considering moving back to Edmonton.  It was completely understandable, but I was sad to be losing my only real friend here.

Yesterday he moved out.  When I got home from work the place felt so empty and quiet.  I’ve had my fair share of room-mates, and when they move out it’s always depressing the first time you get home and all their stuff is gone and it’s super quiet.

As I said, I love living on my own, and solitude is something I really appreciate.  But I just lost my only true friend here, and honestly, I’m kind of worried my life here will revert back to what it was before.  Even with Ryan here I was finding Halifax pretty lonely, without even one friend here it’ll feel even worse.

There’s a lot of really cool people at work, and I do consider them friends, but they mostly all have families and lives of their own, so other than the odd gathering outside of work, I never see them elsewhere.  A friend back in Winnipeg, Craig, has a brother who lives here, and we’ve been planning on hanging out, so that could be cool.  And there’s a girl I’ve been chatting with and went for coffee with once, and we want to hang out again, so who knows what will come of that.  In a month and a half Ryan’s sister, Heidi, will be taking his place on the lease.  So I don’t need to worry about finding a new room-mate, and she could become a friend.  Plus now that it’s warming up out I’ve been getting out more, but I dunno.  I had no problem making friends in Winnipeg or Edmonton, but for some reason I’m finding it really hard to here in Halifax.

I’m really happy Ryan is moving somewhere he’ll thrive, Halifax didn’t offer him much opportunity, and he has friends and a well-paying job waiting for him in Edmonton.  I know he’ll do great in his new/old life.  I just hope I do OK here in mine.


Tim said...

You'll do great in Halifax in time, it always takes time. If that fails, Vancouver is just a continent away and would be glad to have ya!

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